a question for women

Sandra · Post by **Sandra** » Sun Mar 13, 2005 9:23 pm

my niece had her first period and I want to make this happen as an important event for her.....
Can you tell me how women face this in your region?
thank you for the answer

bee · Post by **bee** » Mon Mar 14, 2005 12:13 pm

Sandra, it's not a big deal, like spring, summer, autumn, winter, comes and goes. If you want an Eastern bunny-have that, Christmas tree-holly jolly, whatever. Why don't you start a celebration for menopause-what's wrong with that?- same thing as the first period, cycle of body, cycle of life.

Sandra · Post by **Sandra** » Mon Mar 14, 2005 2:38 pm

ok bee

I was thinking of a gift....

(something that is related with)
I would like to know your own experiences on that too.....how did happen to you? did someone care? etc

Paula · Post by **Paula** » Mon Mar 14, 2005 4:25 pm

Sandra I heard a funny joke

Did you know Boots are selling tampons with pictures of snowmen and reindeer on? - Its only for the Christmas period. Boom Boom

Sandra · Post by **Sandra** » Mon Mar 14, 2005 4:28 pm

mmm ...thats funny Paula.

LaurieAK · Post by **LaurieAK** » Tue Mar 15, 2005 1:42 am

Sandra~

You sound like a very caring aunt.

I don't have anything of tradition or personal to add.

I do think it is a very good idea to make this event a celebration.

A gift that would be a keepsake would be perfect. A necklace or ring maybe? And a card or letter full of heart felt things from her caring aunt....

regards,
Laurie

Insanitor · Post by **Insanitor** » Tue Mar 15, 2005 2:10 am

I remember that my cousin (who was the eldest girl) her parents bought a bottle of champagne and celebrated her becoming a woman. I think they gave her a charm bracelet or something, but the main thing was the acknowledgement of coming into womanhood and that there was no taboo about the topic (particularly for her younger brothers). She remembers it as a very positive life event.

What do we do for boys to celebrate similar?

linda_lakeside · Post by **linda_lakeside** » Tue Mar 15, 2005 3:36 am

Hi all,

Very strange. When I was that age, the entire subject of menstruation was something of a 'secret'. Information was passed between giggling girlfriends and much of the information was incorrect. I don't recall it being connected with anything other than a nuisance or a a rumour.

Of course, there are some cultures that mark this event with ceremonies. Some of which make my blood curdle, however, that's the way it is. I don't know about marking it with a gift, that would be up to the family dynamic, I suppose. In my family, this would not be cause for celebration. It would be a 'secret'.

I suppose a good talk about the birds and the bees, and a small, feminine gift would be nice, although some might think it sexist in some way. Whatever you decide to do, is good. A fond rememberance for your neice would be much nicer than the confusion my generation went through. Your neice is turning into a woman, you love your neice and things seem to be working as they should. I'd say you're off to a good start.

Linda.

Sandra · Post by **Sandra** » Tue Mar 15, 2005 4:44 pm

Thank you...........I appreciate your answers very much.

starshaped · Post by **starshaped** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 3:42 pm

as a guy i never understand the need to celebrate such thing...noone does out when a guy has a wet dream, not that id want them to

Sandra · Post by **Sandra** » Thu Mar 24, 2005 4:31 pm

that men´s event is important too starshaped.....it´s the beginning of something new...
I am looking for Anna Frank´s book in english so I can write here with the exact words she refers to this event in her life....if someone have the book in english please let me know.....there is a cite in her diary on Sunday 2 January and Thursday 29, October.

Anne-Marie · Post by **Anne-Marie** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 4:44 am

feminine gift

LIKE HELL.

I want a refund. Maybe I'll trade it in for menopause.

Anne-Marie · Post by **Anne-Marie** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 4:46 am

Oh, and this reminds me! I was reading my teen magazine, and I saw an article about "celebrating the menstral cycle" ...

Would you like me to scan it for you hon?

linda_lakeside · Post by **linda_lakeside** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 7:17 am

"Trade it in for menopause" ? Scan a teen magazine. I suspect that you either have PMS or you're not taking very seriously a subject which is important to someone else. This is fine. But you do have the option of keeping your snide comments to yourself. Just a thought.

Linda.

linda_lakeside · Post by **linda_lakeside** » Sat Apr 02, 2005 7:25 am

Incidentally, you quoted the words "Feminine gift" out of context.

Linda.